Suggestions, recomendations and bad experiences

[EternallyEdged]

Perhaps it's just bad luck, but I have recently been having some rather negative experiences with SPs. This is a hobby I wouldn't say I frequent, but during the times that I have taken the plunge with a provider on Leolist, it has been very underwhelming and generally not something I'd recomend.

I was a victim of sexual abuse when I was younger, and it has unfortunatly left me at times struggling with intimacy. I am generally quite shy, and I realize that this can be off-putting to some people - I'm not overly attractive, quite geeky and it would be otherwise impossible for me to meet a girl through more conventional means (tinder, a bar etc), and when I do feel the need for intimacy, I seek it out this way.

I'm also not unreasonable. I try to discuss what I am interested before hand so there are no awkward suprises for the SP or myself. I understand the challenges and difficult situations that an SP has to face in their line of work, and I believe every job deserves respect. I don't haggle with prices or try and pressure someone into doing something they're not comfortable with (IE unsafe services), and I can understand if women are put off by my kind of geeky/shy demenor or my looks (lets face it guys, we can all be a little cringy when we're thinking with our little guy), but I try to always be polite, respectful and understanding.

Despite this, my visits with SPs have been cold, rushed or just awkward. Given my past, I do like to experience a little bit of tenderness, closeness, cuddling - and I realize these things can be difficult to do with someone you just met - I am not blaming anyone at all - but recently I've just felt like I am being rushed out the door, I had to stand in the bathroom and stay quite while an SP finishes up with a client before me (so awkward), or have had them tell me to just hurry up so I can leave after only being there maybe 10 minutes. After paying 200+ dollars for what I believed would be a certain type of experience, I leave feeling empty and sad.

Again, I am not perfect and I don't expect others to be - everyone has bad days or isn't interested. I'd rather an SP say 'hey I am not feeling it today how about tomorrow?' or 'I don't like the way you look this isn't something I want to do' rather than taking my money and shoving me out the door :(

Does anyone here perhaps have any suggestions to a provider that is more understanding, more open to a genuine intimate experience and can understand someone who is maybe a little more shy or awkward? I would appreciate any insight into this. Thank you!

[HardToPart]

There are TTT provider lists on here, but at minimum. I suggest seeing only well reviewed women and avoiding the 18-22 year old demographic. They are either in it for the money, lacking in life skills or coerced (or underage). You'll find them in the 100's on LL.

Secondly, once you find a good provider, explain your situation in advance. Talk about your issues and expectations.

For a good experience in the GTA, I'd recommend @FrenchKonexion, @perfection, @sexiijane2017, @StaceyCFT, @Ebony CICI Palmer. They are in the business for the right reasons. If you're in Kingston, I'd recommend @KittyCaterina. Having seen some of these women and had communications with all, you'll find they have empathy and are caring.

No doubt you'll receive other recommendations from long time members. I can be a little shy the first time I meet someone, so I'll share a little story. @StaceyCFT is a highly regarded, mature provider. I expressed some nervousness when I first saw her. She just walked me down the hallway to her bedroom while telling me, "Let's just take all our clothes off and get in bed and take it from there." No pressure, no expectations. That happened years ago but I've never forgotten it.

Good luck.

[Aboutkw76]

It seems like you have just had some bad luck and found providers who are in this business for the wrong reasons. I have a disability myself which I will not disclose but it is something I need to tell providers about upfront. Most providers are understanding and accommodating although every now and then there is someone who is just uncomfortable with it which is fine. When you're looking for a provider I agree many girls who are on the younger side are often in it for the wrong reasons and I try to be extra careful when weeding out the bad providers. I also always insist on a brief phone call so I get some idea of the providers personality and confirm that there is in fact a lady on the other end of the messages. I have recently seen both Ashley and Savannah who are both fantastic and accommodating however they seem to have disappeared over the last couple of weeks so hopefully they are back soon. Melody is also a great choice if you do not mind all safe service. And of course Brianna Savage And Britny. Sorry you're going to have to do some work to find phone numbers so you can check my previous postings for more info on some of these ladies. I also find CE to be accommodating and their ladies are most often fantastic. Of course you cannot speak to the providers however if you contact them and explain your concerns I'm sure they could set you up with a fantastic lady.

[TheMouse]

@EternallyEdged ......... Besides the ladies mentioned above, which of these have you seen? Most are local to KWC.

https://www.sp411.cc/threads/282237-...hlight=norbert

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[Bobzilla]

You gave a lot of detail in your post, but fail to mention how you choose which SP you want to see. If you're just going on leolist & randomly choosing a girl because their photos/ad is appealing to you without doing any research, that's at least 50% of your problem right there.

As Hard to Part wrote, TTT lists are there for a reason. There are many reputable SPs out there who have no problem providing what you're looking for; you've been given some of their names. Search out reviews, then make your decision from there. Yes, it can sometimes be a lot of work, but it's worth it.

[winetwister]

You gave a lot of detail in your post, but fail to mention how you choose which SP you want to see. If you're just going on leolist & randomly choosing a girl because their photos/ad is appealing to you without doing any research, that's at least 50% of your problem right there.

As Hard to Part wrote, TTT lists are there for a reason. There are many reputable SPs out there who have no problem providing what you're looking for; you've been given some of their names. Search out reviews, then make your decision from there. Yes, it can sometimes be a lot of work, but it's worth it.

The folks above have issued spot on advise and this post sums it up - There are many lovely caring ladies who will make you feel like a king - stead the coarse as the op's have suggested .
IMO WT